I just wrote this in response to a question in a group. Figured I would just throw it up on my blog. Why not?
"Friends" denotes that you are equals. It's not true. A successful partnership that is reciprocal, specifically between a projector and a generator, is one where both are aware that the generator inherently has the energy and the projector inherently guides. "Friends" go out to lunch and remain ignorant. Partners see each other. In a correct partnership, the generator inevitably takes the role of the subject, and the projector inevitably takes the role of the life guide, regardless of whether the projector learns something new from the generator. The true relationship is symbiotic, not parasitic. Generally, someone (the not-self) might see the projector as the leech (most common misunderstanding), but the not-self could just as easily see the generator as a leech, taking free guidance without physically, monetarily, or financially supporting their guide.
It's all out of ignorance though. No blame. Just ignorance.
That's why it's so difficult for projectors and generators to have correct relationships right out the gate.
Because the not-self is like, "Wow, I recognize you... But where's your certificate?" 😂🤢
(This has never happened to me btw. I sniff those people out and see their perceptual limitations. But I've seen this phenomenon often.)
Ignorance of the self and the other. No blame.
(This is why projectors are selling services instead of creating real partnerships. They don't want to ask for money. They want to "earn it" by proving to you that they're worthy of guiding you, instead of just taking a lax approach and letting the generator see over time whether the arrangement works for both parties or not.) Another way of saying this is that Projectors are climbing out of the slums, metaphorically speaking, and the others around them may very well not see them. The correct relationship has to be predicated on the understanding and comprehension of the definition of each other, specifically in relation to each other. When ignorance dissipates, so does blame. Can't blame someone for not being someone they are not if you really see them. So, true "friends" are actually partners. Here to accept each other fully and learn together.
That doesn't require traditional selling, necessarily.
It requires seeing. Mutual seeing. (Through your own unique lenses, that is.)
-The Autodidact
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